I went to the mall, and a little girl called me a terrorist.
My name is Ela. I am seventeen years old. I am not Muslim, but my friend told me about her friend being discriminated against for wearing a hijab. So I decided to see the discrimination firsthand to get a better understanding of what Muslim women go through.
My friend and I pinned scarves around our heads, and then we went to the mall. Normally, vendors try to get us to buy things and ask us to sample a snack. Clerks usually ask us if we need help, tell us about sales, and smile at us. Not today. People, including vendors, clerks, and other shoppers, wouldn’t look at us. They didn’t talk to us. They acted like we didn’t exist. They didn’t want to be caught staring at us, so they didn’t look at all.
And then, in one store, a girl (who looked about four years old) asked her mom if my friend and I were terrorists. She wasn’t trying to be mean or anything. I don’t even think she could have grasped the idea of prejudice. However, her mother’s response is one I can never forgive or forget. The mother hushed her child, glared at me, and then took her daughter by the hand and led her out of the store.
All that because I put a scarf on my head. Just like that, a mother taught her little girl that being Muslim was evil. It didn’t matter that I was a nice person. All that mattered was that I looked different. That little girl may grow up and teach her children the same thing.
This experiment gave me a huge wakeup call. It lasted for only a few hours, so I can’t even begin to imagine how much prejudice Muslim girls go through every day. It reminded me of something that many people know but rarely remember: the women in hijabs are people, just like all those women out there who aren’t Muslim.
People of Tumblr, please help me spread this message. Treat Muslims, Jews, Christians, Buddhists, Hindus, Pagans, Taoists, etc., exactly the way you want to be treated, regardless of what they’re wearing or not wearing, no exceptions. Reblog this. Tell your friends. I don’t know that the world will ever totally wipe out prejudice, but we can try, one blog at a time.
Kuliah 1 sks semacem bikin tesis buat 13 orang. Kuliah 2 sks kayak bikin tesis buat 3 orang. Lulus dari sini harusnya kita setara S8..
—Laksita Nastiti Diwasasri
Hari pertama kerja praktek di Poliklinik Psikologi, Rumah Sakit Hasan Sadikin. Ayo ayo yg ngerasa punya masalah, mari kemariii~ (´∇ﾉ｀*)ノ
Dari semua yang nyoba ngekonseling saya tadi, suara sasa yang paling enak buat jadi konselor.
—Tara Handoko
missA’s new single “I don’t need a man”. Once I’ve heard, this song is stuck on my head (and the lyrics too).
So if you’re not sure, don’t come to me. I don’t sell my self easily~
Cause I’m young heart living in a world filled with love, so when tear drops fall from me like rain from above, I can brush my troubles away, know that deep down inside, I’ve got sunshine in my life~
I put my hand in yours, and together we can do what we could never do alone.
—Overeaters Anonymous
What kind of people does Allah love?
What kind of people does Allah love?
1. “I know how you feel.”
- No-one really knows how another person feels.
- It sound patronizing and lacking in empathy.
- It limits exploration of the client’s feelings, and understanding more fully how things appear to them.
2. “It will be all right.”
- How do you know that it will be all right? Your assumptions could be totally wrong.
- It sounds superficial, insincere and lacking in compassion and empathy.
- It sends the message that you don’t want to listen any longer – so the client is prevented from working through their pain.
3. “If I were you I would …”
- It isn’t about the counselor; it is all about the client and what will work for them.
- It minimizes how complex and difficult this is … and sends the message that problem is trivial and easy.
- Counseling is NOT about giving advice. The aim is “to explore to better understand” and then helping the client to choose what they will do.
4. “You should have/you shouldn’t have …”
- The counselor should be non-judgmental and accepting. Yet this is both judgmental and super critical.
- It is subtly guilt-tripping the client for their choice – and they don’t have to please or explain themselves to you.
- It limits problem-solving and dis-empowers the client.
5. “Wow. That’s terrible!”
- A comment like this can keep the client stuck as they now feel bogged down by “how awful things are.”
- Without intending to, it frames the client as a victim and takes away their power and autonomy.
- It keeps the focus on the past, and helps the client escape from their current and their future responsibilities
I currently volunteer at a help/suicide hotline, and this is all 101% true!
I wish I could go to the future, to my graduation day, so I can refill my motivation towards these things.
